Free Couples Communication Tool

Turn Conflict Into Connection With the Feedback Wheel

Adapted from Terry Real's The New Rules of Marriage, this simple 4-step worksheet gives you and your partner the exact words to use when a hard conversation starts to go sideways.

  • A printable, fill-in worksheet you can use in the moment
  • Scripted language for both the speaker and the listener
  • Built by a licensed couples therapist, used in real sessions

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What's Inside

Four Steps to a Conversation That Actually Goes Somewhere

The Feedback Wheel walks you through observation, interpretation, feeling, and request — paired with a listener's guide so both partners feel heard.

STEP 1

What I Saw or Heard

Start from the facts, not the story you've built around them.

STEP 2

What I Made Up About That

Name the interpretation so it stops masquerading as fact.

STEP 3

How I Feel About It

Simple, honest feeling words — no accusations attached.

STEP 4

What I'd Like Now

A clear, specific ask your partner can actually respond to.

Worksheets Are a Great Start. Real Change Happens in Session.

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