Discernment CounseLing

For Couples on the Brink

Considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path? You are in a tough spot, and Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.

Discernment Counseling

Is Discernment Counseling Right for US?

Considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path? You are in a tough spot, and Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.

Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help — and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.

What Is and Is NOT Discernment Counseling’s Goal?

The counselor will help you discern whether to do one of the following:

  1. try to restore your marriage to health,
  2. move toward divorce, or
  3. take a time out and decide later.

The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

The goal is not to solve your marital problems but rather to see whether they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect regardless of how you feel about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys.

What to Expect from Discernment Counseling?

You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.

The counselor respects your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.

The counselor emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.

How Many Sessions?

A maximum of five (5) sessions. The first session is usually 2 hours and the subsequent sessions are 1.5 or 2 hours.

Discernment Counseling isn’t for Everyone.

Discernment Counseling is not Suited for these situations:

  • When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
  • When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
  • When there is a danger of domestic violence

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